The Insidiousness of Victim Consciousness

All humans share the archetypal pattern of the victim. Many humans have been conditioned to live from victim consciousness. For many it has become an unconscious way of engaging with life.

I can hear you saying, “Not me, but I see it all around me and it drives me crazy.” 

Why me?

When you see victim consciousness expressed all around you and it irritates you, it is akin to a mirror reflection. You are being given an opportunity to see what you haven’t been able to see within yourself. The first step in transmuting victim consciousness is to become aware of how it expresses through you. 

One very common expression of victim consciousness is scarcity, which can also be termed as lack or the pattern of “not enough”. 

The first step in becoming aware of this pattern is to observe what you think and what you say. You may find yourself thinking or saying something like:

• I can’t do that because I don’t have enough money, time, support or education.

• That works for others but it won’t work for me. I try hard but i am just not enough.

• When my circumstances change then I will be enough.

• You are not listening. You are not being enough for me.

• When my children are older it will be different. I will have enough time.

• When people learn to appreciate me, respect me and value me then I will know that I am enough.

• No matter how hard I try to keep all the balls in the air, it is never enough. Something always falls through the cracks. I should be better than this. 

The second step of the awareness process is to cognizant of the emotions and feelings connected to what you think and the words you speak. Some of the common emotions/feelings experienced one you don’t feel enough are:

• Overwhelm

• Anxiety

• Fear

• Shame 

• Guilt

• Resentment

• Unappreciated

• Not valued

• Frustrated

• Disconnected (alone)

• Misunderstood

• powerless to change

With awareness of how you are engaging from victim consciousness you can take the next step to transform this pattern of “not enough”. Check out the ‘How I Serve’ tab at the top of the page.