Expecting the Unexpected

Liberating self from your story is about learning to be comfortable with expecting the unexpected. In the patriarchal culture, when people experience the unexpected and find themselves in the unknown, they have been conditioned to expect quick fixes to make everything okay, with the hope that life will return to the familiar as soon as possible. People go to great lengths to protect themselves from experiencing the unknown and they have a multitude of stories that keep them fate-locked in the known. 

I meet many people who tell me, with what appears to be with great certainty, that they want to liberate themselves from their story. After a session, it is revealed that there is a ‘but, only if’ in that certainty. They want to do it only if it is quick, easy, involves no pain and if I can promise their lives won’t change. For example, Genevieve wants me to teach her how to fix her family, her partner and a co-worker, because when she engages with them her wound is triggered and it causes her emotional pain. Through her conditioning — the intergenerational stories that have become her identity and her life experience — she believes that if she knew how to change their behavior, she would no longer experience pain. This is a common pattern expressed by victim consciousness and it allows Genevieve to avoid the responsibility of healing her own wounds. She feels she is a victim and if they change then she won’t have to. The truth is, in trying to control and change the behavior of the people who cause her pain, Genevieve does not get to the root of her pain. And as long as her wound is unhealed it will attract people that will trigger it. Healing transpires when one unsticks from their story of being a victim and knows they are responsible to self for their own healing. Their experience is not ignored. It is acknowledged but it is not their identity. Only Genevieve can heal her story and the wound it protects. This is an inconvenient truth for a person who does not want to be responsible to self and wants to either fix others or be fixed themselves so they won’t experience emotional pain.

Liberating self from story is a healing journey. It is not a linear process. It is full of hills, valleys, twists and turns. It is the unknown. There is enchantment, magic, awe and wonder, joy, love, beauty, grief, and sadness — and there is change. When a person unsticks from their story and heals the wound that the story is protecting, their life changes because the wound is no longer magnetizing people and experiences that are congruent with the wound’s energy vibration. This means relationships change, and that making empowered choices is now possible because that person is aligned with their soul truth.

Every woman is unique, making her liberation from her story process different from other women’s. This process is designed to enable women to step out of victim consciousness and align with creation consciousness by developing trust in themselves to become a co-creator. In this process, they find the balance between being responsible and interdependent and they learn to engage from their soul power aligning them with sovereignty. They are fully engaged in life. They are happening to life versus life happening to them

It takes grit and grace to be comfortable with expecting the unexpected of being in the unknown. It is inspiring to be a guide and witness women embrace the inner work required to engage with their soul power and show up in life with a strength and resilience they never knew they had.