The Power in Being Worthy
Knowing that you are worthy is empowerment and being worthy is the practice that deepens the knowing and develops your power.
The prostitute archetype is the pattern that expresses your relationship with being worthy. When you don’t feel worthy you will prostitute your power.
A story for you
Tanisha: Allessandra, this project I am working on is all coming together and I learning so much in the process. I have so much to share with you.
Allessandra: All you talk about is your project. It is like I am no longer of any importance to you. I have been replaced by a project. I miss the fun we used to share together. I miss how we used binge on food and wine, while we would spend the evening commiserating with each other. I am hoping you will soon have had enough of your new life and come back to the one we once shared.
Tanisha: Allessandra, there is no turning back. for me. Yes, we did share some fun times together. That was then, this is my life now. My life has changed in ways that I couldn’t even imagine when we were spending our time bingeing and commiserating. I am expanding and growing and I won’t let anything or anyone stop this process. I trust myself to know my truth and have the confidence and courage to stand in it. I no longer have the need to prove my worth. I am worthy and my story of who I thought I was ,impeded me from seeing it.
Allessandra: Enough Tanisha, I don’ t want to hear any more of this craziness. You used to listen to me. My logic once served you well but now you are out of control. you have lost any ability you had to reason. You have no appreciation for me or what we once shared. I feel like I have just been tossed aside like a used rag.
Tanisha: Allessandra, you are correct. I am not the same person that I was when I first accepted this leadership position. I cannot go back to who I was or be who you need me to be. I love myself to much to disempower myself in that way. The relationship we shared disempowered both of us. I can’t do that to myself or to you.
Allessandra: I can’t accept what you have become and there is a price to pay. I don’t want you in my life anymore.
Tanisha: Allessandra, you can no longer manipulate me. The cost is simply a disempowering relationship we once shared. I am choosing to live my truth. You are my sister and you will always be my sister . I love you. My door is always open. We don’t have to be on the same path to respect and love each other, and share time together in a way that empowers both of us. Be well Allessandra.
Let me explain
Tanisha is fully awake. She is in her power and will no longer be manipulated by her sister. She loves herself enough to know that her old way of being no longer serves her and she is passionate about continuing to expand and grow. By deepening her relationship with trust and security she no longer needs to prove her worth. She is being worthy by standing in her truth and living it.
Allessandra on the other hand is stuck in fear. She is afraid of change and she desperately wants Tanisha to be who she used to be. She felt safe when they were the same and supported each other to be stuck in a story of disempowerment. She is feeling alone and unsupported as Tanisha engages in life in a new way. Allessandra feels that Tanisha has abandoned her so she is abandoning Tanisha. The victim consciousness “tit for tat’ pattern of behaviour.
A new story
Tanisha: Allessandra, this project I am working on is all coming together and I learning so much in the process. I have so much to share with you.
Allessandra: Tanisha, I have been thinking of you. I feel so much joy when I think about you and this project that is giving you an opportunity to engage with life in a new way. Please share your news. I am listening.
Tanisha: Thank you Allessandra. Your support means the world to me. It is all coming together so quickly. The synergy of the team has developed into one of trust. We all have each other’s best interest at heart and it is empowering. I am getting to know the director I report to much better and she is becoming an incredible mentor for me. I have so much freedom with this project. We have selected 25 women who are committed to the process and they started last week. This is what is so amazing, I can see that I attracted women who are on the same path as me. I’m just a few steps ahead of them and my director is a few step s ahead of me. We are all supporting each other to be our best. I haven’t experienced this before and I feel so supported to grow beyond my comfort zone. I also realized a couple days ago that I no longer feel a need to prove myself to anyone. I know that I am worthy of being the lead of this project and I am very capable of guiding the team and these incredible women. I trust myself to do this because I am being guided and supported to be my best. This isn’t a solo journey. I get so excited as I think about the next steps. This project is living through me and it doesn’t feel hard. I feel like I have endless energy to serve. I used to feel so exhausted when I felt I had to prove my worth. Now I simply live it.
Allessandra: Tanisha, my heart is full. This is so beautiful. You are beautiful and you inspire me. In fact you have inspired me so much I have some news to share with you.
Tanisha: Allessandra, I have never thought about how I inspire you. That is a new way of seeing myself. Let’s meet at our favourite eating place. I want to hear your news in person and we can celebrate how we are supporting each other to rise in our power.
Allessandra: Thank you Tanisha. What if we continue practicing being in the unknown and meet at a place that we haven’t been before. There is a new place that opened last week not far from where you live. I will send you the address and I will see you there at 6:00pm.
Tanisha: Perfect! I will be there.
Awareness
Three months ago, when Tanisha first began to explore the idea of being the leader of this project, she was in living from a different mindset. She had a magnificent idea but she she didn’t trust herself to get it right. She though if she followed through on her idea she would be risking her security. Allessandra was her primary support. Allessandra was a few steps ahead of Tanisha on this journey and was able to support Tanisha to believe in herself. The support allowed Tanisha to gain enough confidence to take a greater risk. She discovered that when she aligned with her power she was supported by the team and her director. Now all she sees are the possibilities for continued expansion and growth. Allessandra is inspired by her sister and what is unfolding in her life. She also sees the possibilities that will support her growth. Allessandra and Tanisha are supporting each other to rise in their power.
Archetype Cards, Caroline Myss
Self-awareness practice
Closing the gap between reacting unconsciously and responding consciously.
Big life questions:
1) What does being worthy mean to you?
2) How would you engage with life if you knew you were worthy?
I encourage you to set a daily intention to deepen your awareness of your relationship with worthiness.
I have created these questions to guide your process:
1) What does it feel like in your body when you are expressing worthiness?
2) What language does survival consciousness (victim, saboteur, prostitute) use to express your relationship with worthiness?
3) How does your soul express being worthy? Where do you feel it in your body?
4) How does your story of “not being enough” relate to your relationship with self-worth?
5) How do your relationships with security and trust impact your worthiness?
I suggest you take a few minutes before bed to journal your daily observations. The daily practice of being worthy will support you being in your power.
You are on the journey of knowing you are worthy!