Parenting Your Inner Child
November’s Heart Centred Practice focused on you becoming aware of your inner child and deepening your relationship with her. That practice is the foundation for December’s practice.
Awareness
During December 2021, the Cosmic light is being shone on inner child wounds and they are rising into conscious awareness to be acknowledged and healed. As a result, you may be feeling the wound energy within more intensely and noticing that the people around you are expressing their wounds and being triggered more easily. Healing your inner child is part of this transition as we globally unstick from the patriarchal story. Unhealed wounds will keep you stuck in the intergenerational story that expresses through survival consciousness.
How do you identify your inner child wound? If you worked through the self-awareness part of November’s practice you will most likely have identified at least one wound. The next step is to be aware of what is showing up in your life during December. This is a time of year when many families gather for the holidays. Be aware of family patterns, how you engage with them and how you feel and think, if or when you are triggered. This practice will help you to deepen the awareness of the wound and begin the healing process.
When you are aware of your wound/s, you are taking responsibility for the way you engage and you can make a choice to not project your pain onto another. This choice supports your healing and breaks the pattern of engaging from your wound. As you practice you will find you will recognize when others are engaging from their wounds and you will have the opportunity to choose whether or not to engage. You may find yourself having compassion, expressing kindness and understanding others in ways that you haven’t previously. In time, you will come to understand that it is not personal, they are simply expressing from their wound and you will realize that you are not a victim. When you experience this you will know that healing is underway and you are transcending victim (survival) consciousness.
This is the true meaning of being responsible. The ability to respond serving your highest good and the highest good of all involved. No blame, no shame, no guilt. Simply seeing your wound and being responsible to its healing.
Archetype Cards, Caroline Myss
Self-awareness practice
The healing process requires you to parent your inner child in a way that she has not been previously parented. The parenting that she has experienced has been handed down through intergenerational story creating the wound/s. You now have the opportunity to heal that story and to create a new story for your inner child, yourself, your family and for future generations.
Step One: Envisioning Your Future Child I invite you to envision your child as healed. What does that mean for you? How does she engage with the world from the scar versus the wound? Perhaps she feels safe, secure, worthy, resilient and engages with life with self-confidence and self-trust. Perhaps she knows that she is connected to and respects all living beings. Perhaps her heart is open and she loves with abandon.
Step Two: Present Time Child Needs What does your inner child need right now? Perhaps she needs to feel safe, secure, loved, understood, to be listened to, to be seen, reassured and nurtured. Perhaps she needs to be guided versus being told what she should or shouldn’t do.
Step Three: Closing the Gap between reacting unconsciously and responding consciously.
You have envisioned your healed child. You have identified your child’s present needs. Now you will envision the kind parent you will need to be to close the gap between your present child and your future child so they can become integrated — become one.
If the child in step one, was my future inner child, as the parent, I would need to be resilient, build my confidence and trust in myself to parent my present inner child in a way to support her to be her future self. In doing so I am teaching her to be resilient, have confidence and to trust herself. Teaching her how to live her future self in present time. To engage in this way, I would need to know her intimately, be kind, compassionate, listen to her and see her. I would love her with abandon, wounds and all. My vision would be my guide and I would live it, being aware of every thought, emotion and action, knowing that she is being shaped by my guidance.
What would living this vision require? Continuing with the same example, as a parent, I would need to have conviction, determination and commitment. I would need to be aware of my thoughts, feelings and actions in every engagement with my inner child to make sure her needs are supported allowing her to be her future self. I would need to love her so deeply that it becomes integrated and a way of being.
Now it is your turn to work through the steps so you can parent your inner child in a new way.
Healing your inner child wound or wounds is the key to the door of your liberation from intergenerational story. I encourage you to be kind to yourself and your inner child. This is a process of self-love.
Perhaps this feels overwhelming to do on your own. In my experience having the guidance of someone who has walked the path and experienced healing has quickened my healing. I invite you to book a Connecting Heart to Heart session with me and I will guide you through the process. You may be amazed at how quickly you can liberate yourself.